How To Find The Right Therapist For You

Starting therapy is a courageous decision, and finding the right therapist can feel overwhelming. With so many options available, how do you know who’s the best fit for you?

As a licensed marriage and family therapist, I often get asked this question. And while factors like a therapist’s experience, insurance coverage, or whether they offer virtual sessions are important, the most critical piece is this:

The quality of your relationship with your therapist is the strongest predictor of success in therapy.

What to Look for in a Therapist

When thinking about how to find the right therapist, you might consider:

Their therapeutic approach or modality
Whether they’re licensed and experienced
If they take your insurance or offer sliding scale fees
Location or setting—virtual, in-office, or unique environments (like my ranch!)

These are all valid considerations. But even more important is how you feel with that person. Do you feel safe opening up? Do you feel heard and understood?

You want someone who will support your healing process and also challenge you in a caring, constructive way. Therapy is where you’ll explore the hard, vulnerable things you might not share with anyone else. That kind of work requires trust.

The Relationship is What Matters Most

Credentials matter—yes. Your therapist should be licensed, clinically competent, and ethically grounded. But even the most skilled therapist won’t be helpful if you don’t feel a connection.

I always ask new clients:“How will you know when you’re done with therapy?”

This question helps us define goals. For many, therapy is not meant to last forever—it’s a chapter in your life. Knowing what you want to get out of it helps guide our work together.

It’s Okay if the Fit Changes Over Time

Sometimes, a therapist who once felt like the perfect match may no longer feel right—and that’s okay. I like to compare it to a favorite pair of shoes. They may have supported you well for a time, but if they no longer fit, it might be time to try something new.

Don’t be afraid to check in with yourself throughout the process. Therapy should evolve with your needs.

My Approach at Moonlight Ranch

At Moonlight Ranch, I sometimes incorporate the peaceful presence of animals into therapy. You might hear a horse or a donkey in the background! This setting isn’t for everyone, but it works beautifully for those who feel grounded by nature and animals.

Finding the right therapist means discovering what resonates with you—your comfort, your goals, and your environment.

Final Thoughts: How to Know You’ve Found the Right Therapist

When you find a therapist who:

Listens without judgment
Makes you feel safe and supported
Encourages you to grow
Helps you define goals for therapy...then you’re on the right track.

If it doesn’t feel like a good fit, it’s okay to keep looking. You deserve a therapeutic relationship that truly supports your healing.

Considering therapy? I’d love to connect and see if we might be the right fit. Contact me to schedule a consultation or learn more about my practice.

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